As
the mother of a young woman, you obviously only want what is best for her as
she goes from living under your roof to hopefully meeting the man of her
dreams, perhaps starting a family of her own.
With
that in mind, moms at times have to walk a tightrope as their daughters go from
early 20’s to being in love.
As
part of that process, there will more times than not be both an engagement and
ultimately a wedding.
Given
those natural procession steps, many moms will be called upon for advice from the young lady or ladies in their lives. As such,
it can be a bit of a challenge on what to say and what to hold inside.
When
you find yourself in such a position, do you tell your daughter what you really
think about not only her engagement, but ultimately the biggest day of her
life, the wedding day?
Being a Caring and
Understanding Mom
In
order for your daughter’s wedding experience to have the best chances of coming
off without any major hitches, remember these three tips:
1. Planning
If
your daughter met the right guy, he’s doing all he can to help her with
planning the big day.
Sure,
most women love the challenge of arranging their wedding day, but the reality
is that such planning can become a little overwhelming at times. As a result, the
tension can creep up a few notches, leaving the bride-to-be with raised blood
pressure levels.
When
you’re the mom of a bride-to-be, there is absolutely nothing wrong with
encouraging her to have the groom-to-be as involved as possible with wedding
planning.
Remember,
your future son-in-law more than likely did a fine job when it came to looking
at the right moissanite engagement rings,
ultimately picking one that both your daughter and he liked. As such, he should
be more than capable of providing input and assistance to what will be his
wedding day too.
As
the mom, be sure to be there with any advice and comfort you can offer, but
don’t overstep your bounds to the point where you become a nuisance.
2. Costs
Given
the bride’s family oftentimes pays for a sizable portion of the wedding day,
though that is not written in stone, it is important for money not to come up
as a tension point.
As
an example, look around at some weddings both you and your daughter have
attended in recent years. Did any of those couples scale things back in order
to not break the bank come wedding day?
If
your daughter and soon-to-be son-in-law are looking to trim some fat off of the
wedding plans, here are some options:
· Scaling down the
guest list
· Opting for a buffet
meal instead of it being personally served
· Having a family
member or friend who sings or is a DJ provide the entertainment
· Using your backyard
or even a local park or beach as the wedding setting, avoiding the costs of
renting a church.
· Having family cars
and SUVs as part of the wedding procession instead of renting limos.
Sure,
if they ask your opinion, don’t be afraid to give it. That said the honeymoon
is an experience that the special couple should decide what best fits their
wishes and of course their budget.
3. Celebration
Finally,
even though some tears are going to flow the day your daughter ties the knot,
remember to look at it as a major celebration in her life and in yours.
After
raising her all of these years, the time has come for her to start a new
chapter in her life.
Before
you know it, you might one day be chasing after a grandchild, so enjoy the time
now and what is likely to come.
As
a mom, what advice would you have for your daughter as she prepares for this
life-changing time?
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