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It's Ok to Grieve
There are several stages in the grieving process, and make no mistake, a divorce is like death in a way. Whatever the circumstances surrounding the separation, grieving, letting go and moving on are part of the process. You may not experience these stages in this exact order, but you will feel then all to some extent. How you cope with them will have a direct bearing on how fast you heal and move on. The stages are:
How to Deal With the Grief
- The first step in letting go is just that: letting go. Don't keep mementos or photos. If you don't have to heart to destroy them, pack them away - far away.
- If you remain in the marriage home, buy new furniture or just redecorate a little.
- Use mindfulness to acknowledge and process your feelings. It doesn't make you less manly; it simply makes you more human.
- Talk to a professional counselor or join a support group. Talking to people who understand what you're going through, but who aren't directly involved, is very cathartic.
- Do you. This means taking care of your health, taking care of your daily business and taking charge of your life. Support from outside sources is great, but you have to be your own strongest support.
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